diff --git a/CMakeLists.txt b/CMakeLists.txt
index f3006fe0a..cc15dbe00 100644
--- a/CMakeLists.txt
+++ b/CMakeLists.txt
@@ -275,38 +275,6 @@ if("${FIPS_VERSION}" STREQUAL "v1")
     override_cache(WOLFSSL_TLS13 "no")
 endif()
 
-# DTLS v1.3
-add_option("WOLFSSL_DTLS13"
-    "Enable wolfSSL DTLS v1.3 (default: disabled)"
-    "no" "yes;no")
-
-if(WOLFSSL_DTLS13)
-    if (NOT WOLFSSL_DTLS)
-      message(FATAL_ERROR "DTLS13 requires DTLS")
-    endif()
-    if (NOT WOLFSSL_TLS13)
-      message(FATAL_ERROR "DTLS13 requires TLS13")
-    endif()
-    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_DTLS13")
-    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_W64_WRAPPER")
-
-    if (WOLFSSL_AES)
-      list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_AES_DIRECT")
-    endif()
-endif()
-
-# DTLS ConnectionID support
-add_option("WOLFSSL_DTLS_CID"
-    "Enables wolfSSL DTLS CID (default: disabled)"
-    "no" "yes;no")
-
-if(WOLFSSL_DTLS_CID)
-    if(NOT WOLFSSL_DTLS13)
-        message(FATAL_ERROR "CID are supported only for DTLSv1.3")
-    endif()
-    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_DTLS_CID")
-endif()
-
 # Post-handshake authentication
 add_option("WOLFSSL_POSTAUTH"
     "Enable wolfSSL Post-handshake Authentication (default: disabled)"
@@ -325,9 +293,9 @@ endif()
 # Hello Retry Request Cookie
 add_option("WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE"
     "Enable the server to send Cookie Extension in HRR with state (default: disabled)"
-    "no" "yes;no")
+    "undefined" "yes;no;undefined")
 
-if(WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE)
+if("${WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE}" STREQUAL "yes")
     if(NOT WOLFSSL_TLS13)
         message(WARNING "TLS 1.3 is disabled - disabling HRR Cookie")
         override_cache(WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE "no")
@@ -337,6 +305,42 @@ if(WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE)
     endif()
 endif()
 
+# DTLS v1.3
+add_option("WOLFSSL_DTLS13"
+    "Enable wolfSSL DTLS v1.3 (default: disabled)"
+    "no" "yes;no")
+
+if(WOLFSSL_DTLS13)
+    if (NOT WOLFSSL_DTLS)
+      message(FATAL_ERROR "DTLS13 requires DTLS")
+    endif()
+    if (NOT WOLFSSL_TLS13)
+      message(FATAL_ERROR "DTLS13 requires TLS13")
+    endif()
+    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_DTLS13")
+    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_W64_WRAPPER")
+    if ("${WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE}" STREQUAL "undefined")
+      message(WARNING "DTLS1.3 is enabled - enabling HRR Cookie")
+      override_cache(WOLFSSL_HRR_COOKIE "yes")
+      list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE")
+    endif()
+    if (WOLFSSL_AES)
+      list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_AES_DIRECT")
+    endif()
+endif()
+
+# DTLS ConnectionID support
+add_option("WOLFSSL_DTLS_CID"
+    "Enables wolfSSL DTLS CID (default: disabled)"
+    "no" "yes;no")
+
+if(WOLFSSL_DTLS_CID)
+    if(NOT WOLFSSL_DTLS13)
+        message(FATAL_ERROR "CID are supported only for DTLSv1.3")
+    endif()
+    list(APPEND WOLFSSL_DEFINITIONS "-DWOLFSSL_DTLS_CID")
+endif()
+
 # RNG
 add_option("WOLFSSL_RNG"
     "Enable compiling and using RNG (default: enabled)"
diff --git a/configure.ac b/configure.ac
index b798a5eb1..169548347 100644
--- a/configure.ac
+++ b/configure.ac
@@ -1078,7 +1078,7 @@ fi
 AC_ARG_ENABLE([hrrcookie],
     [AS_HELP_STRING([--enable-hrrcookie],[Enable the server to send Cookie Extension in HRR with state (default: disabled)])],
     [ ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE=$enableval ],
-    [ ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE=no ]
+    [ ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE=undefined ]
     )
 if test "$ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE" = "yes"
 then
@@ -3753,6 +3753,12 @@ then
         then
                 AC_MSG_ERROR([You need to enable both DTLS and TLSv1.3 to use DTLSv1.3])
         fi
+        if test "x$ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE" == "xundefined"
+        then
+                AC_MSG_NOTICE([DTLSv1.3 is enabled, enabling HRR cookie])
+                AM_CFLAGS="$AM_CFLAGS -DWOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE"
+                ENABLED_SEND_HRR_COOKIE="yes"
+        fi
   AM_CFLAGS="$AM_CFLAGS -DWOLFSSL_DTLS13 -DWOLFSSL_W64_WRAPPER"
   if test "x$ENABLED_AES" = "xyes"
   then
diff --git a/doc/dox_comments/header_files/ssl.h b/doc/dox_comments/header_files/ssl.h
index 1cba16f15..f5d9532a0 100644
--- a/doc/dox_comments/header_files/ssl.h
+++ b/doc/dox_comments/header_files/ssl.h
@@ -13052,10 +13052,13 @@ int  wolfSSL_connect(WOLFSSL* ssl);
     \ingroup Setup
 
     \brief This function is called on the server side to indicate that a
-    HelloRetryRequest message must contain a Cookie.
-    The Cookie holds a hash of the current transcript so that another server
-    process can handle the ClientHello in reply.
-    The secret is used when generting the integrity check on the Cookie data.
+    HelloRetryRequest message must contain a Cookie and, in case of using
+    protocol DTLS v1.3, that the handshake will always include a cookie
+    exchange. Please note that when using protocol DTLS v1.3, the cookie
+    exchange is enabled by default. The Cookie holds a hash of the current
+    transcript so that another server process can handle the ClientHello in
+    reply.  The secret is used when generting the integrity check on the Cookie
+    data.
 
     \param [in,out] ssl a pointer to a WOLFSSL structure, created using wolfSSL_new().
     \param [in] secret a pointer to a buffer holding the secret.
@@ -13082,10 +13085,31 @@ int  wolfSSL_connect(WOLFSSL* ssl);
     \endcode
 
     \sa wolfSSL_new
+    \sa wolfSSL_disable_hrr_cookie
 */
 int  wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL* ssl,
     const unsigned char* secret, unsigned int secretSz);
 
+/*!
+
+    \ingroup Setup
+
+    \brief This function is called on the server side to indicate that a
+    HelloRetryRequest message must NOT contain a Cookie and that, if using
+    protocol DTLS v1.3, a cookie exchange will not be included in the
+    handshake. Please note that not doing a cookie exchange when using protocol
+    DTLS v1.3 can make the server susceptible to DoS/Amplification attacks.
+
+    \param [in,out] ssl a pointer to a WOLFSSL structure, created using wolfSSL_new().
+
+    \return WOLFSSL_SUCCESS if successful
+    \return BAD_FUNC_ARG if ssl is NULL or not using TLS v1.3
+    \return SIDE_ERROR if invoked on client
+
+    \sa wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie
+*/
+int wolfSSL_disable_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL* ssl);
+
 /*!
     \ingroup Setup
 
diff --git a/examples/server/server.c b/examples/server/server.c
index 504d013eb..1b9d06ca6 100644
--- a/examples/server/server.c
+++ b/examples/server/server.c
@@ -936,7 +936,8 @@ static const char* server_usage_msg[][65] = {
         "-Q          Request certificate from client post-handshake\n", /* 49 */
 #endif
 #ifdef WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE
-        "-J          Server sends Cookie Extension containing state\n", /* 50 */
+        "-J [n]      Server sends Cookie Extension containing state (n to "
+        "disable)\n", /* 50 */
 #endif
 #endif /* WOLFSSL_TLS13 */
 #ifdef WOLFSSL_EARLY_DATA
@@ -1702,7 +1703,7 @@ THREAD_RETURN WOLFSSL_THREAD server_test(void* args)
     /* Not Used: h, z, W, X */
     while ((ch = mygetopt_long(argc, argv, "?:"
                 "abc:defgijk:l:mop:q:rstu;v:wxy"
-                "A:B:C:D:E:FGH:IJKL:MNO:PQR:S:T;UVYZ:"
+                "A:B:C:D:E:FGH:IJ;KL:MNO:PQR:S:T;UVYZ:"
                 "01:23:4:567:89"
                 "@#", long_options, 0)) != -1) {
         switch (ch) {
@@ -2085,6 +2086,8 @@ THREAD_RETURN WOLFSSL_THREAD server_test(void* args)
             case 'J' :
             #ifdef WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE
                 hrrCookie = 1;
+                if (XSTRCMP(myoptarg, "n") == 0)
+                    hrrCookie = -1;
             #endif
                 break;
 
@@ -2959,10 +2962,13 @@ THREAD_RETURN WOLFSSL_THREAD server_test(void* args)
 #endif /* !NO_CERTS */
 
 #ifdef WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE
-        if (hrrCookie && wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(ssl, NULL, 0)
+        if (hrrCookie == 1 && wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(ssl, NULL, 0)
             != WOLFSSL_SUCCESS) {
             err_sys("unable to set use of cookie with HRR msg");
         }
+        else if (hrrCookie == -1) {
+            wolfSSL_disable_hrr_cookie(ssl);
+        }
 #endif
 
 #if defined(WOLFSSL_STATIC_MEMORY) && defined(DEBUG_WOLFSSL)
diff --git a/src/internal.c b/src/internal.c
index 25653ee89..f3adef06d 100644
--- a/src/internal.c
+++ b/src/internal.c
@@ -6934,11 +6934,22 @@ int InitSSL(WOLFSSL* ssl, WOLFSSL_CTX* ctx, int writeDup)
 
 #if defined(WOLFSSL_DTLS) && !defined(NO_WOLFSSL_SERVER)
     if (ssl->options.dtls && ssl->options.side == WOLFSSL_SERVER_END) {
-        ret = wolfSSL_DTLS_SetCookieSecret(ssl, NULL, 0);
-        if (ret != 0) {
-            WOLFSSL_MSG("DTLS Cookie Secret error");
-            return ret;
+        if (!IsAtLeastTLSv1_3(ssl->version)) {
+                ret = wolfSSL_DTLS_SetCookieSecret(ssl, NULL, 0);
+                if (ret != 0) {
+                    WOLFSSL_MSG("DTLS Cookie Secret error");
+                    return ret;
+                }
         }
+#if defined(WOLFSSL_DTLS13) && defined(WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE)
+        else {
+            ret = wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(ssl, NULL, 0);
+            if (ret != WOLFSSL_SUCCESS) {
+                WOLFSSL_MSG("DTLS1.3 Cookie secret error");
+                return ret;
+            }
+        }
+#endif /* WOLFSSL_DTLS13 && WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE */
     }
 #endif /* WOLFSSL_DTLS && !NO_WOLFSSL_SERVER */
 
diff --git a/src/tls13.c b/src/tls13.c
index c78c5e150..2506f45c3 100644
--- a/src/tls13.c
+++ b/src/tls13.c
@@ -10628,7 +10628,33 @@ int wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL* ssl, const unsigned char* secret,
 
     return ret;
 }
-#endif
+
+int wolfSSL_disable_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL* ssl)
+{
+    if (ssl == NULL || !IsAtLeastTLSv1_3(ssl->version))
+        return BAD_FUNC_ARG;
+
+#ifdef NO_WOLFSSL_SERVER
+    return SIDE_ERROR
+#else
+    if (ssl->options.side == WOLFSSL_CLIENT_END)
+        return SIDE_ERROR;
+
+    if (ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.buffer != NULL) {
+        ForceZero(ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.buffer,
+            ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.length);
+        XFREE(ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.buffer, ssl->heap,
+            DYNAMIC_TYPE_COOKIE_PWD);
+        ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.buffer = NULL;
+        ssl->buffers.tls13CookieSecret.length = 0;
+    }
+
+    ssl->options.sendCookie = 0;
+    return WOLFSSL_SUCCESS;
+#endif /* NO_WOLFSSL_SERVER */
+}
+
+#endif /* defined(WOLFSSL_SEND_HRR_COOKIE) */
 
 #ifdef HAVE_SUPPORTED_CURVES
 /* Create a key share entry from group.
diff --git a/tests/test-dtls13.conf b/tests/test-dtls13.conf
index 516a61796..0186b9a7f 100644
--- a/tests/test-dtls13.conf
+++ b/tests/test-dtls13.conf
@@ -129,17 +129,16 @@
 -l TLS13-AES128-GCM-SHA256
 -J
 
-# server DTLSv1.3
+# server DTLSv1.3 HelloRetryRequest with cookie
 -v 4
 -u
 -l TLS13-AES128-GCM-SHA256
 -J
 
-# client DTLSv1.3 HelloRetryRequest with cookie
+# client DTLSv1.3
 -v 4
 -u
 -l TLS13-AES128-GCM-SHA256
--J
 
 # server DTLSv1.3
 -v 4
@@ -260,3 +259,14 @@
 -u
 -l TLS13-AES128-GCM-SHA256
 -f
+
+# server DTLSv1.3 no HelloRetryRequest cookie
+-u
+-v 4
+-l TLS_AES_128_GCM_SHA256
+-J n
+
+# client DTLSv1.3 defaults
+-u
+-v 4
+-l TLS_AES_128_GCM_SHA256
diff --git a/wolfssl/ssl.h b/wolfssl/ssl.h
index 2601feb86..92271de8c 100644
--- a/wolfssl/ssl.h
+++ b/wolfssl/ssl.h
@@ -1144,6 +1144,7 @@ WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_mutual_auth(WOLFSSL* ssl, int req);
 #ifdef WOLFSSL_TLS13
 WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_send_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL* ssl,
     const unsigned char* secret, unsigned int secretSz);
+WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_disable_hrr_cookie(WOLFSSL * ssl);
 WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_CTX_no_ticket_TLSv13(WOLFSSL_CTX* ctx);
 WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_no_ticket_TLSv13(WOLFSSL* ssl);
 WOLFSSL_API int  wolfSSL_CTX_no_dhe_psk(WOLFSSL_CTX* ctx);